There's a story that has been going around by email about this corporate hot shot, admired by everybody, who suddenly starts crying in the bathroom. She then pours her heart out about wanting to have a child and not actually having time for the actual procreation. The moral of the story? Focusing on your career will make you miss out on so many things.
What is wrong with this story? One simple fact: the husband in the story is also too tired to procreate. So I don't really get how she'll do it all on her own if she stops focusing that much on her job.
Now I know that ideally we should all work 5 days a week, from 9 to 5 and then have enough time left to enjoy all the other pleasures life has to offer. All good till now, but that is still only an idealistic approach. In the Real Romania, it works like that for a lucky elite only. The rest of us women have to put more effort into making enough money to first afford other treats and only then make time for them.
And no one thinks about long term state of affairs. Ok, she has the child and gives up her job for the hubby and baby and all. Should I remind you all that in Romania the wife gets no monthly sums of money? Only the child does, and not always enough. Should I also remind you that a break of a few years can make getting back into the work field can be really hard? For most of us, there is no either/or. As generally women with an ongoing career still have a hard time raising children on their own.
Then again, did any of us stop to think why certain women (house wives) stay in dysfunctional marriages? Why they accept to be beaten, cheated on or treated as servants? Simply because they cannot afford to do something else. So having to postpone a pregnancy is not the worst thing that can happen to a woman. Why do we blow it out of proportions? Why do we keep fighting the successful career woman? Isn't it high time we stopped?
What is wrong with this story? One simple fact: the husband in the story is also too tired to procreate. So I don't really get how she'll do it all on her own if she stops focusing that much on her job.
Now I know that ideally we should all work 5 days a week, from 9 to 5 and then have enough time left to enjoy all the other pleasures life has to offer. All good till now, but that is still only an idealistic approach. In the Real Romania, it works like that for a lucky elite only. The rest of us women have to put more effort into making enough money to first afford other treats and only then make time for them.
And no one thinks about long term state of affairs. Ok, she has the child and gives up her job for the hubby and baby and all. Should I remind you all that in Romania the wife gets no monthly sums of money? Only the child does, and not always enough. Should I also remind you that a break of a few years can make getting back into the work field can be really hard? For most of us, there is no either/or. As generally women with an ongoing career still have a hard time raising children on their own.
Then again, did any of us stop to think why certain women (house wives) stay in dysfunctional marriages? Why they accept to be beaten, cheated on or treated as servants? Simply because they cannot afford to do something else. So having to postpone a pregnancy is not the worst thing that can happen to a woman. Why do we blow it out of proportions? Why do we keep fighting the successful career woman? Isn't it high time we stopped?
4 comments:
That's so true. It's not a coincidence that you find the same cliche in different societies and cultures. I believe the aim is to weaken women and their ability to reach financial independence.
It's a sad thing that a lot of women still caught the bait, prefering to stay at home to raise their kids.
I've written a couple of posts about the same issue.
What's even sadder is that they see women doing something else as unfulfilled. Which is wrong. You can still do everything you need, if you are careful enough and really want it!
This is great; I love the post, I love the blog...you ladies are doing a wonderful job. Keep it up!
Zeynab, thank you for your kind words! I hope you visit us again and that the ladies can be convinced to contribute more often :D
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