Selecting A Spouse

A friend of my husband let's call him T is looking for a spouse and he's been doing that since a very long time , with no luck , whenever he tries to arrange it officially , something happens and things go wrong and the story ends.

Once there was this girl let's call her M who was with him at college but she was younger , and he liked her and wanted to marry her , so he told my husband's sister (she's a colleague to M) to ask her about her opinion ,M didn’t show interest in marriage and said she doesn’t think about it now.

So he let go of this whole story and started the journey of searching for another spouse.

One day he saw M at a marriage ceremony and he thought that could be a good sign and maybe they're meant to be , so he asked my husband's sister to ask her again.

A month later she reached M, she couldn’t reach her before that because they're all busy in college projects and midterm exams , and for surprise M agreed.
So she told my husband to tell T about it but he said he's involved in another story !!!

The "new" story has a problem , he wanted to marry a girl let's call her S, who had an operation and it had side effects that she can't had kids , but there's a probability of 50% , and it's not in a natural way and it needs operation too, of course he didn’t know about that until he proposed.

Now he doesn't want to continue in S story because of her problem , but at the same time he feels guilty to leave her after he knew , and if he didn’t leave her , then he'll lose the opportunity of marrying M after she agreed.

To tell you the truth , I'm really pissed of !!! my heart aches for S , so now no one will want to marry her because of this problem?? What if T was the one having a problem if he married someone? How will he guarantee he'll have kids?? I know its his right to have kids but the whole thing just upsets me from a humane point of view.
So what happens next?? If someone wants to get married he should make her go through tests to make sure she'll be able to have children in the future ?
This is really making me angry , men want to make a full interrogation and investigations about the woman they want to marry and they have to be perfect in everything!! Otherwise they aren't good enough for the honor they'll have of marrying them!!
Marriage is all about taking your spouse for better and for worse..

T liked S , that's why he wanted to marry her , it wasn't an arranged marriage so that he'd act this way of examining the girl ! apparently that wasn't a good reason for him to continue in the marriage procedures.
posted by Rain